first encounter with erectile dysfunction

My First Encounter With Erectile Dysfunction

By Johnathan P Cumberwell

My first encounter with erectile dysfunction was a complete shock.

I could not believe it! I could not believe that my penis stopped working.

It was completely lifeless! What was going on..?

I was beyond confused..

It turned my world upside down. From being close to perfect, my life took a sharp turn downhill. It became filled with frustration and questions.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let me tell you my story from the beginning:

happy man in new york city

I had graduated from university a couple of years ago, was working at a financial firm in NYC, worked hard, made a good living, had good friends, and was very upbeat about life and the future.

It was one of the first summer days of the year and the city was teeming with life. It was like a happy story from a feel-good movie. It couldn’t get any better.

For the past three weeks, I had been going out with this (in my opinion) gorgeous and wonderful woman. I was beyond infatuated. Was crazy about her.

I was on my way over to her apartment for the first time. I went up to her floor, rang the doorbell, and she opened.

Before I could say more than hi, she pulled me inside by the t-shirt.

Not exactly what I expected, but I loved it.. 😉

couple kissing

Before I had a chance to think, her tongue was halfway down my throat.

It was like another happy scene from the same feel-good movie.

We made out on the kitchen-table. Books and paper fell to the floor. We laughed. We had fun. We made out again. It was amazing. We almost melted into each other.

I could feel a rock hard erection almost bursting my jeans. She grabbed my crotch. I carried her to the bedroom.

Clothes flew left and right and soon we were butt naked except for my socks.

She grabbed my crotch again.


my penis was limp

My dick was limp.

It was flaccid.

It was totally dead.

I looked down and I was dumbfounded. Huh..!?? What..!!? Why..? What was going on??

What was wrong with my penis?? Why didn’t it want to play?

I was in bed with a completely naked, absolutely gorgeous and awesome woman – what in this world could be more of a turn-on than this..?? And then my penis wasn’t interested..??

How was this even possible..?

flaccid penis erectile dysfunction

She tried mouth to penis resuscitation.

It didn’t work.

She tried rubbing her vagina against me.

It didn’t work.

She tried her breasts.

It didn’t work.

She tried using both hands.

It didn’t work.

woman kissing breast

She kept on trying. Tried again, tried really hard. One more time.

But nothing worked. It was just totally dead.

She gave up, said it was OK..

It was not OK.

I wished there was a hole in the ground I could fall down into and disappear. And be gone.

I felt hopeless. Like a complete failure. It was like my man-hood was taken from me..

My confidence was shattered to pieces. It was awkward. So very awkward. And incredibly embarrassing.

But the worst part: I felt really bad for the upset woman laying next to me.

sad woman bed erectile dysfunction

She was just great, and she had done everything she could to make it work.

I wanted to make her happy, I wanted her to feel amazing. I wanted to put a smile on her face.

But instead, we were laying on the bed in complete misery. I was staring at the ceiling. She with her back towards me. I had completely ruined the moment.

A few moments ago, she was the happiest person in the world. Now I had no idea what she was thinking.

What if she felt she did something wrong? Or perhaps she felt she wasn’t good enough, or that I wasn’t attracted to her? Or that something was wrong with her?

I told her I was really, really sorry and I promised it would never happen again.

I assumed it was a one-off event.

upset couple ed

But it wasn’t. It kept happening. Again and again.

Btw, the girl later left me, saying she was convinced I was gay.

It took some time before I got over the shock and this really sunk in.

I was really suffering from erectile dysfunction? Seriously? Me..? At 26..?

I was utterly confused. Lost. I couldn’t understand why..

What was the problem? Why wouldn’t I get hard? Why would this happen to someone like me?

I was athletic, worked out a few times a week, ate well and was in my 20s. I didn’t smoke, drank only modestly, and was living what I thought was a very healthy life.

why me erectile dysfunction

This just didn’t seem right or normal. It didn’t make any sense.

Why was this happening..?

I used to be, or at least considered myself to be, an alpha male. I used to be confident, the center of attention, I cracked jokes, I was fun, I was happy.

All of that was gone. I was now just a shadow of myself. I was a man with a handicap. I had stopped smiling. It was not cool.

There had to be a way. There had to be a way to fix this! I was desperate to find a solution. I was dying to have a healthy, normal sex-life again.

This is where my journey started. The journey that I thought would be quick. But which ended up taking more than 10 years.

my journey to solve dead libido

This journey put me through despair, complete confusion, utter frustration, anger, but also hope, anticipation and progress.

This is where the journey started that bit by bit enabled me to permanently overcome my erectile dysfunction, and also get my libido back.

To learn about the next leg of my journey, please go here.