What On Earth Should I Do Now?
Here I was, in my 20’s and not able to function sexually. I had a problem. A big problem.
I had zero self-confidence. I was lost. My bright outlook on life was shattered to pieces. I wanted to cry.
And it was not only erectile dysfunction that had hit me. My libido was also practically gone. I didn’t think about sex, didn’t have random sexual thoughts and didn’t particularly want to have sex. My sex drive had vanished.
The bizarre thing about this was that it didn’t make any sense to me.
Why would this happen to someone who was in his 20’s, who was relatively athletic, had a normal diet, didn’t smoke, rarely drank alcohol and overall lived a seemingly healthy life?
If I were 86 years old when this happened, it would have been a different story. It would have been easier to understand. But I really had to deal with this in my 20’s?
I was confused. Lost. Sad. And I was angry at the world. Why me?
But bit by bit I got myself together and I accepted that I had two big problems: Erectile dysfunction and a weak libido.
I then started thinking about how to recover. What could I possibly do to overcome my problems?
Since I was completely in the dark, I decided that step one was to try to educate myself about my conditions.
I decided I needed to get to the bottom of these conditions. I wanted a full understanding, I needed to understand the root causes of these problems.
If I could understand why these problems were occurring, maybe I could then figure out how to fix myself?
My first port of call was the internet. I started searching and educating myself about erectile dysfunction and libido problems. What were they? Why did they happen? What were the causes of these problems?
There was a lot less information on the web back then than there is today, but I nonetheless found several good articles, research studies, news stories, etc.
And I read every relevant piece I could find.
I spent hours and hours in discussion forums to absorb as much information as I possibly could.
I bought books to learn more. I watched online videos.
I found lots of suggestions and advice. Several sources suggested certain foods to combat these problems, herbal supplements, exercises and other lifestyle changes.
I didn’t know whether this was good or bad advice. But I had no prior knowledge or experience with any of this, so I plunged into it.
I started experimenting.
My first attempt at solving my problems, was to experiment with an herb called Gingko Biloba. I had found a website with glowing recommendations for how this herb could cure erectile dysfunction and give life to a sputtering libido.
I bought a bottle, followed instructions to take two capsules a day, but nothing happened. It turned out to be a dead end.
But I continued.
I tried lots of different supplements and herbs, I tried different diets, different exercise regimes, tried to sleep more and better, tried to stress less. Tried a little bit of everything.
I was hoping for a quick fix.
But I didn’t find a quick fix. This quest for a solution to my problems turned out to become the most time-consuming and significant project I had ever undertaken.
However, I refused to give up. I was determined to find a solution.
But, I wasn’t very systematic.
I tried some of this, then some of that, then moved on to something else. In many cases I didn’t try something for long enough or with adequate diligence to see results.
I didn’t keep a record of what I had done, so I often even forgot what I had done in the past.
As a result, I simply didn’t have a lot of success.
However, even though I wasn’t able to find a solution, I still had three very interesting discoveries: One was about a change in diet, one about a hiking vacation, and the third about herbal supplements.
My Diet Epiphany
During a period of my life, I had a very unhealthy diet. It consisted of the cheapest cereal and cow’s milk for breakfast, bread with peanut butter for lunch, and pasta and pasta sauce for dinner.
This was more or less what I ate every day for several months. Hardly any fruit or vegetables.
During this period, I had zero sex drive, and I hardly ever got erections.
I then changed my diet quite drastically to a vegetarian diet which was varied and rich in nutrition.
After just a few days, my libido jumped back to life! And all of a sudden I got random erections! It was a startling epiphany. I could hardly believe it!
My Bizarre Hiking Vacation
The second interesting discovery took place on a week-long hiking trip in sunny mountains.
During this trip, I was outside hiking in the sun, got fresh air, ate well, slept well, didn’t stress and enjoyed the company of good friends. Sex was not on my mind at all. I would just hike, eat, chat, sleep and chill – and that was it.
However, towards the middle of the trip I was getting unusually horny. I started having random sexual thoughts. And then I would get erections! In the mountains..!
And when I got erections, they lasted super long. They were persistent!
This was highly, highly unusual! Because in my normal life back home, I wouldn’t get erections..
What was going on? Why would a hike in the mountains make my libido come back to life?
My Supplements Discovery
The third interesting discovery came from trying out herbal supplements.
When I took Tribulus Terristris and Horny Goat Weed, I could feel a slight increase in the sensations from sex. Meaning the pleasurable sensations from sex were slightly amplified.
And it might have been slightly easier to get erections.
Also, after taking L-arginine in the morning, I would sometimes get a random erection later on.
However, the effects from these three supplements were weak, and by no means enough to help me with my problems. But they were nonetheless interesting discoveries.
By this point I had tried a lot of things, but I hadn’t found anything that could consistently and reliably solve my erectile dysfunction and give life to my lifeless libido.
Because I couldn’t find anything that worked for me, and because I was dying to have a normal sex-life, I decided it was time to try pharmaceutical drugs.
I Started Popping Pills
I had high hopes that these pills would finally fix my problems.
And they did! The drugs worked like a charm. It was almost a life-saver at the time.
I could hardly believe how well these pharmaceutical drugs worked. I could hardly believe my luck!
My erections were rock hard again!
The drugs worked consistently and didn’t fail to produce erections. I could trust them every time.
They made me relax and enjoy sex again.
I once again felt like a man. I was tremendously grateful for having found something that took care of my erectile dysfunction problem.
However, although these drugs fixed my ED problem, they did nothing to improve my libido.
I still didn’t crave sex, I still didn’t think about sex, and I still wouldn’t get random erections.
And yes, the drugs enabled me to have sex, but I still didn’t like them. I never did. There are three major reasons for this: 1) They are often unnecessary, 2) they have bad side effects, and 3) they don’t fix the underlying problem.
Drugs Are Often Not A Good Solution
Drugs are very often an easy and unnecessary solution. For instance, if you are not able to get an erection, there is always a reason for it.
It’s normally because a part of your body or mind is ill. The inability to get an erection is normally a signal from the body or mind, saying that the body (or mind, or both) is out of balance.
This normally happens because we do things to ourselves that are harmful. Or because we are not doing what we should do.
If we act according to the signals we get, the the body and mind will often sort out the problems themselves.
If we don’t listen but rather ignore the signals and continue on, the body and mind are likely to remain in imbalance, and the situation is likely to get even worse.
ED Medication Can Have Bad Side-Effects
Drugs are generally very imprecise devices.
Let’s say I want to dig a small hole in the garden for a plant. I could use my hands to dig it, and it would be sufficient. But let’s say I use an enormous excavator to make the hole instead.
I probably removed the dirt I intended to, but probably removed a lot more as well.
In a similar way, drugs tend to treat the intended ailment, but they also normally impact several other functions in the body.
Or put differently, they have several side-effects.
When I took these pills, I suffered severe side-effects. My face got flushing red, my nose got stuffy, my vision sometimes got funny, and I sometimes got headaches.
Drugs Only Treat Symptoms
Drugs normally only treat the symptoms, not the underlying cause of the illness.
For instance, these drugs can help a man get an erection, but they do nothing to cure the underlying problem.
Therefore, if you use these drugs to get erections, you will often need these drugs to treat the symptoms for the rest of your life. But the problem is still there.
In addition, the drugs may become less and less effective over time because your body builds up resistance towards them.
For these reasons, I try to never take medication or drugs when I am in pain or when I am sick. I want to let my body get a chance to sort out the problem itself.
Therefore, taking a drug before having sex was something I never liked to do – it was something I wish I didn’t have to do.
I also hated the side effects. It was a heavy price to pay to have sex.
I really wanted to get off the drugs. I was badly itching to find a way to solve erectile dysfunction without having to take these pharmaceutical drugs.
However, I didn’t find anything else that worked consistently, and I therefore kept taking the drugs.
Then one day..
..after having taken pharmaceutical drugs for a long time, the effect of the drugs started to taper off.
The drugs started to become less and less potent.
I had to take higher and higher doses to get the desired effect.
Then the effect from the drugs disappeared.
My body had built up tolerance towards the drugs and they had stopped working. All of a sudden, taking the drugs produced close to no effect in me.
I had nothing now that helped me. Nothing to lean on. It was now impossible for me to have sex.
My world again crumbled to pieces. I felt completely empty.
That was when I decided to try to fix myself from the ground up, no matter the effort. I wanted to be healthy. I wanted to be normal.
Enough with the quick fixes! Enough with the drugs!